When I go out with people, I want to enjoy a meal, not fight the entire meal. That is just terrible. She is a bully personality. She always has been and is trying to bully me. Fact is, she has picked the wrong one. Verbally I go toe to toe because I have to. I have tried not saying anything and it only escalates more. Not saying anything give the bully the power to do even more crazy things. You must stand up to a bully I have learned that. So, whenever and wherever she starts the fight, I will finish it.
You can chase a butterfly all over the field and never catch it. But if you sit quietly in the grass it will come and sit on your shoulder.